‘ALONE TIME’ IS PRIME TIME.

The freedom that comes from being alone is exhilarating. — Marriam

We’re born alone, we live alone, we die alone. Only through our love and friendship can we create the illusion for the moment that we’re not alone. — Orson Welles

A whole tiring day at work ! A crammed brain…splitting headache…stiff joints…dry eyes and an over-exhausted body.

‘Just want to reach home, crash into bed or better still, make myself a cup of piping hot tea and relax…all alone’.

Is this not what you think of, most days ?

You do not want to see anyone…you want to get yourself together…no questions asked and no answers given. ‘Leave me alone,’ your mind screams.

All of us need Time and Space to ourselves. We reinforce our self worth through those timeless moments with ourselves and let down our barriers to be Who We Really Are! We need that solitude…to be free of obligations.. to be with ourselves. To replenish our resilience reserves.

‘Feeling Lonely’…is it the same as ‘Being Alone’ ?

‘Feeling lonely’ is the flip side to ‘Being alone.’ They are separate states of the mind, yet, sometimes they do overlap each other. Fleeting emotions may race through your mind, in succession, depending on situations at hand.

Loneliness comes from missing people, or the little things in your life. The tiny disappointments seem intense and sometimes eat you up.

Again it depends on the type of personality that you are. It can be depressing, reckless, boring, or in some cases, it could even amount to  being ‘scheming’. Feeling lonely can be bad when you are feeling sick, feeling broken and need someone by your side or when you need a lot of love and reassurance from loved ones.

You can feel lonely even in a crowd !

Being alone, on the other hand, is a matter of choice and can mean much to a strong, creative, independent and productive person. Finding company in yourself and enjoying it can be very empowering.

Being Alone is An Art to be enjoyed!

Our language has wisely sensed the two sides of being alone. It has created the word loneliness to express the pain of being alone. And it has created the word solitude to express the glory of being alone. — Paul Tillich

Nothing glamorous in feeling lonely:

Each one of us is bound to feel lonely, at some point of time or the other, especially when life loses its edge. The circumstances that lead us to feel totally lost determine the impact it has on our psyche.

If the world around you has come crumbling down, and you have hit rock-bottom, the feeling of loneliness will amount to desperation and frustration…sometimes worse results could ensue.

From thereon, you have the choice to shake out of your lonely plight, open up and expand your horizon. It is up to you to bring back relationships and start caring for people around you in a better way than before. Often we take every relationship for granted. Only when we lose something in Life do we value it as precious.

For that, you must invest in time ‘alone’ with yourself, see everything from a different perspective and get back to making life happy for yourself and for the others around you.

Slowly the changeover from feeling lonely will start bearing fruit when the time well spent with yourself has been used with a purpose, for a Purpose.

Then the day will come when you can finally stand up proud and tell the whole world:

“I fell apart and I survived; I changed over from feeling lonely, broken and helpless to being healed and made whole in mind and spirit. I’m stronger because I had to be. I’m smarter now because I learnt from my mistakes. My happiness is the result of my getting out of my sadness, and more than any thing else, I’m wiser because I learnt the hard way. I realised my potential and I used that to empower myself.”

Love the experiences that shape you into being Who You Are. Those who learn from you will look up to you, love and respect you.

Lead by example and the world will follow you !