DEAL WITH ‘DIFFICULT BEHAVIOR’, NOT ‘DIFFICULT PEOPLE’.

 

The difficult people who we encounter can be our greatest teachers. –  Eileen Anglin

To be true, there are no difficult people. Only difficult behaviors.

It is not the person who is difficult, but aspects of the behavior of that person. Understanding this prime aspect may not be possible when you are in a reactive mood. Your immediate and instinctive thought would be to change these Whiners or Manipulators or Short-Fused Difficult members at home or at work.. Their main aim could be to provoke you and make you react.

Powerless over such interactions, you are left feeling like being mowed down by a speeding truck. Shying away and avoiding such people also becomes impossible when they are your own sibling, spouse, mother, father, kids, co-worker or friend.

Members of a family must be able to give and take respect and conduct themselves with dignity, without resorting to their egoistic selves. Accepting each member as they are, will prove less upsetting for you. Don’t dream too much for them as it might end up in you being disappointed.

Avoid topics that could lead to conflict or confrontation, to the best possible extent. Realize that difficulties in life are vital for our own personal growth. Having hands-on experience at dealing with difficult situations, learn to avoid those things that could label ‘you’ as ‘being difficult’, at any given point of time.

At work…..Try to build allies. Smart allies can contribute to effectively building co-worker relationships and strengthening it. Grow to be well liked by all around you that people will speak up for you when needed.

After all, Success is in your hands,

The Law of Win/Win says, ‘Let’s not do it your way or my way; let’s do it the best way’.” Greg Anderson

Let the best way prevail !!

BIBLE VERSE:

People are the most difficult thing in the world to change – Gena Showalter

Talking about difficult behavior or difficult situations, it is easy to become judgemental of another. The Bible refrains us from becoming so and warns us to have a more tolerant attitude towards our brothers and sisters. To understand this, we need to read the Chapter of Romans 14:1-13. It is self explanatory.

¹Accept the one whose faith is weak, without quarreling over disputable matters. ² One person’s faith allows them to eat anything, but another, whose faith is weak, eats only vegetables. ³ The one who eats everything must not treat with contempt the one who does not, and the one who does not eat everything must not judge the one who does, for God has accepted them. ⁴ Who are you to judge someone else’s servant? To their own master, servants stand or fall. And they will stand, for the Lord is able to make them stand.

⁵ One person considers one day more sacred than another; another considers every day alike. Each of them should be fully convinced in their own mind. ⁶ Whoever regards one day as special does so to the Lord. Whoever eats meat does so to the Lord, for they give thanks to God; and whoever abstains does so to the Lord and gives thanks to God.

⁷ For none of us lives for ourselves alone, and none of us dies for ourselves alone. ⁸ If we live, we live for the Lord; and if we die, we die for the Lord. So, whether we live or die, we belong to the Lord.

⁹ For this very reason, Christ died and returned to life so that he might be the Lord of both the dead and the living.

¹⁰ You, then, why do you judge your brother or sister? Or why do you treat them with contempt? For we will all stand before God’s judgment seat.

¹¹ It is written:

¹² So then, each of us will give an account of ourselves to God.

¹³ Therefore let us stop passing judgment on one another. Instead, make up your mind not to put any stumbling block or obstacle in the way of a brother or sister.

PRAYER:

To all those beautiful souls who find their workplace and certain co-workers intimidating, here is a prayer for you to entreat changes in yourself and to pray for healing in the others. May the Lord work out wonderful changes in you that you become calm, composed and non-judgemental at work, at home and out in the world.

Stay Blessed, Stay Wise.