2019 is here!!
Wishing you a very happy and prosperous year ahead.
The New Year has been ushered in with a lot of fanfare and there is celebration all over. Christmas and New Year are like two beautiful sisters of a family, always bringing joy and happiness wherever they are. There is laughter, fun, frolic and merry-making during the season. As the new year chimes in, along with the wishes pouring from all sides, come in the resolution-making for the year ahead. It does not stop with one or two of them. A lot of reflection goes on about what needs to be changed for the coming year. And then come the lists.
But most of these resolutions made, fizzle out after a few days, or at the most, after a few months. Just like ‘Rules are made to be broken‘, so also resolutions are made, in all earnestness, to be broken. These resolutions are unattainable, most of the time, because they are made without giving too much of a thought on what the real need was, in the first place. Success in career and getting back into shape through rigorous exercise are the two of the most commonly-made and not heeded-to resolutions, due to no fault of the maker or sheer negligence.
Why set up new resolutions,in the first place, when you have so many of them incomplete in the last few years? For a change, why not delve deep into yourself and cut out those things that were holding you back in your life? Why not take control of those areas of your life that need deft handling?
This is where Anti-Resolution comes in helpful. If ‘Resolution’ is a commitment to do something, then ‘Anti-Resolution’ is a commitment to stop doing something that does you more harm than good.
The concept about ‘Anti-Resolution’ is that you need not be pressurized about the traditional way of looking at Resolutions. Rather than getting worked up or panicky about ‘not’ having done things, you could focus on giving yourself an opportunity to assess and find out those patterns of behavior that are self-limiting of self-destructive in yourself that make your life harder. Then use that awareness to stop doing all those or at least one of them. This helps you get specific about your own life.
Identify one thing about yourself that you do not like and want to change, and then work on it. For this, you need to assess your own self critically and then deal with that behavior which you do not like in yourself. (Read: Mental wellness for 2019)
I wish to point out just a few of those Anti-resolutions here, since the changes you would want to see in yourself varies from person to person and it is up to you to decide how you want to make changes so as to make your life better than before.
Trying to please everyone:
You cannot please everyone. It just does not work out that way. It is futile trying to make all people like you. Be happy with those who are with you.
Feeling you need permission for all that you do:
You feel good to do something only when someone acknowledges your act or gives you permission. The one that needs to permit you to do what you want to do is ‘You’ and you only. Let go of that guilt trip.
Feeling like you are the scapegoat:
You do not have to be somebody’s scapegoat. At home or at work. Learn to say a firm ‘No’ where necessary and to be assertive whenever needed.
Lacking in prioritization:
Why stress about things that have zero consequences in your life? Instead of making mountains out of molehills and waylaying things that need to get done, spend that energy on living life worthy for yourself.
Being an ultra extrovert does you no good:
Friends, family, parties and crowds are good, but you need to focus on prime time for yourself. Alone Time is very important on how to run your life, prioritizing your daily schedules and looking after your physical and mental health – these should be prime on your list.
With so much to think and deal with yourself, which is time consuming, here’s wishing you good luck in making your life enriching and happier.
May This Year Rain Blessings of Wisdom, Discernment and Patience to Achieve Your Goals!